Defining enough
You’re doing enough.
If I told you that whatever you ended up doing today was enough, would you believe me?
If you’d say no or felt resistant, pay attention. You've likely attached your self-worth to what you do:
If you tick off everything on your to-do list, you feel good. If you don't tick off everything on your to-do list, you feel bad.
The problem with that is that the number of tasks on our to-do lists doesn’t create our feelings. What we do or don't do doesn't create our feelings. We could do more and still feel bad. Or we could do less and feel good.
It's all subjective. 'Enough' is subjective until we measure it for ourselves.
Whenever we think we’re not doing enough or that we should do more, we create self-judgment and stress. We think this will help us get more done, but negative emotions don’t produce positive results.
We actually end up doing less.
Imagine being in a relationship with someone who thinks you’re not doing enough and should do more.
How fun is that?
Would it motivate you to do more for them? Probably not. And even if it does, the energy isn't coming from a place of love or enough-ness.
So don’t do that to yourself.
Decide ahead of time that if you woke up and got out of bed, you’ve done enough today. Decide that whatever else you end up doing is just a bonus.
It sounds ridiculous, but what if you started here and this was your ‘enough’ baseline?
You won't be less productive. In fact, the opposite: you'll be less stressed and more productive.
Because in this alternate reality, you've dropped the self-judgment. And self-judgement always slows us down.
Create your own 'enough' baseline each day. Remember that nobody else gets to decide what that looks like except you.
If you're stressed about not doing enough, connect with me and let's talk about what's keeping you stuck.